Keeping Adoption Secret

  A story about a secret This story about keeping adoption secret was first published a decade ago. The advice columnist Amy Dickinson chose to re-publish it a few days…
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I write about adoption

Here’s why I write about adoption, but it can be awkward, this birthmother/ first mother thing. The other night I attended a birthday party, and chatted with a couple I hadn’t…
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“Bridges” a short story

“Bridges” is a short story. It’s brand new, and it’s published here. This story is not about adoption per se. But it is about lies. And secrets. And about reunion….
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Breaking the Silence

Breaking the silence in adoption scares us. We don’t dare. This story highlights the secrecy in adoption. And a secret weighs heavy on the heart. A secret can be found out…
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Adoption and Coincidence

A play about adoption “The Importance of Being Earnest” is, at it’s heart, a play about identity. I saw a production of it Saturday that was a perfect confection. The…
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Adoption Uncovered by DNA

Secrecy in adoption A friend sent me this 23andMe story recently. While adoption is not part of it, the element of secrecy  is similar to the secrecy in many adoption stories. This Gazillion…
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The Anonymity of the Big City

  While the poem below is not actually about the secrets that birthmothers often harbor, there are many ideas and images in it that struck a chord with me. I…
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