A New Essay in Under the Sun

I have a new essay in Under the Sun about losing my first child to adoption. A writing accident I never meant to write about any of this. For decades…
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An Essay About Reunion

My essay about reunion has been published in “The Beacon,” the newsletter of the American Adoption Congress. Reunion, as we know, is a really big deal. Probably everyone involved in…
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Senior Citizen Birthmother

Senior Citizen Birthmother might seem like a contradiction in terms, but as the linked article points out, women who lost children during the Baby Scoop Era from 1945-1975 are now…
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Burger King Baby Update

A Burger King baby update tells us that things are going well! Of all the adoption stories out there on Facebook, this one has certainly captured my heart. I blogged…
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Birthmothers Everywhere!

No matter where I go This past month I’ve been to Albuquerque and to Santa Barbara for T’ai Chi Chih retreats, and I’ve done some traveling with friends in Hawaii….
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Multi-Generational Loss

Unknown grandchildren I became a grandmother 13 years ago last week. But here’s the thing. It’s quite likely that I might never have known that I was a grandmother. All…
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Adoption Uncovered by DNA

Secrecy in adoption A friend sent me this 23andMe story recently. While adoption is not part of it, the element of secrecy  is similar to the secrecy in many adoption stories. This Gazillion…
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The Search for My Son

Nancy Drew, girl detective From the beginning I knew I would search for my son. I never let go of the idea that I would find him, but I had…
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My First Contact with My Son

Post Adoption Contact I was not entirely sure how to initiate my first contact with my son. As a regular attendee of the monthly Concerned United Birthparents meetings, I picked…
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Rhode Island Adoptees

  Rhode Island Adoptees Win! Rhode Island Adoptees have won the right to access their original birth certificates! And isn’t it cool that the Rhode Island flag says, “Hope?” It’s…
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