You might be sitting at the top of the triangle
Dear Adoptive Parents,
When I think about how the past 18 years of reunion have gone with my son and the hows and whys of all of it, I can’t help but think about his parents (his adoptive parents.) Especially his mother. She had lost a child herself, and I think because of this experience, was able to understand what I had lost. In our correspondence through letters and in person, in all these years she has never once been negative toward me, any aspect of the reunion process, or post-reunion life. The last two years, we’ve been at the same Thanksgiving table.
If there are any adoptive parents who stumble onto this blog, I encourage you to imagine yourself sitting at the top of the triangle. Imagine your arms and hands stretching downward. See the strength in connecting all of us.
That is so cool about Thanksgiving…
more adoptive parents need to be like that. I had a decent relationship with my daughter’s parents, but the mother was always critical–the attitude was: I am a better person than you are. She actually wrote to me twice: We have different values. Meaning: We approve of lying, sin, drunkenness and general wantonness and any other vice you can think of. I ended up not liking people who retain that Midwestern moral superiority attitude–and I’m from the Midwest.
lorraine from
http://www.firstmotherforum.com
What an amazing honour you are portraying for AP’s – I’ve never thought of the triad that way, but it makes me want to try harder.
Thank you.