I find the list troubling. Most of the links go to sites whose primary focus is adoption. The site called Birthmom Buds is especially unnerving. Founded by two birthmothers, they offer mentoring by birthmothers who have relinquished. If they are as unbiased as they say
(“although you may be making an adoption plan, you are not actually a birthmom, until you sign relinquishment papers. Until then, you are simply an expectant mother preparing for her child’s future! Our biggest piece of advice to you is to research both the options of parenting and adoption. You truly can not make an informed decision unless you have educated yourself on both options. Take this time to explore both of those options and then make a final decision!” )
maybe they should offer mentoring by women who decided not to relinquish. There are all kinds of subtle and not so subtle messages on this sight that point towards giving up the baby.
Birthmother.org is geared toward adoption, too and BirthmothersUnite has a vibe that is part religious and part Hallmark card, though to give them their due, they do seem to understand the drive for search and reunion.
AdoptionOpen purports to offer birthmother support, but they are also promoting adoption. BirthmotherResources was created by an adoption agency.
I’d like to see some real birthmother presence on the web. But I’m guessing all the possible domain names have been purchased by adoption agencies.
I’m going to work on creating a list of blogs.