Separating parents and children
Families at the border are suffering.
We weep. Tear our hair. Exclaim to the heavens about the un-American practice of separating children and parents at the border. But we are all amnesiacs, sleep-walking through the history of a county that has never lived up to its ideal of greatness.Throughout history we have ripped children from their parents. In Jelani Cobb’s e sharp-eyed comment on Juneteenth, he sites slavery and the horrors of torn apart Native American families, performed in the name of the greater good, as well as the deficiencies of our social services system..
Adoption is another way of tearing families apart. Take a look at Georgia Tann, a well-known adoption villain. But also let’s point our gaze toward adoption “heroine” Edna Gladney. Peer below the surface there and find more hearts destroyed. More families torn apart in the name of greater good.
Separating children from parents is what we do in this country. It’s what we’ve always done. If you’re too brown, too black, too young, too poor, too foreign, someone will be happy to judge you as unfit to parent your child. What’s new is that now our president and his cronies are actively orchestrating the new version of this terror.
As the policy of separating families at the border is mitigated (supposedly), I predict that some of those children will never find their way back into the arms of their parents.
You have expressed my feeling so well. I am angry, tired of feeling to small to effect changes weighed down by the sadness that children are still taken under flimsiest of reasons. Transracially adopted kids are seen as not good enough by so much of society because they are too much themselves, too much their parent. If they have mental health issues, it is because of the birth parent, because of the adoptive parent and treatment is withheld. Yet the systems that will not show they ways they spend money inflict moral injury to parents and children as easily as mardi gras beads are flung.