Donor Intent

Robertson vs. Princeton Donor intent. What does that mean? Well, what if, some time ago, you made a decision to donate your fortune to a home for unwed mothers?  But …
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Chosen

More about words The word chosen is part of the language of adoption. Not everyone likes it. I have  a friend who is adopted. She read what I had to…
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The Loss Comes Back

Like evil butterflies The loss comes back. I got an email from my friend Elizabeth the other day. She’d found a blog from a woman whose brother was given up…
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Adoption Words

A word about words Adoption words. Let’s have a word here about the adoption words so prevalent in any discussion of adoption. Birthmother, an adoption word I’ve been looking at…
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What I’m thankful for:

What I’m thankful for this Thanksgiving includes this. The sight of my youngest child giving the youngest grandchild a “plane ride” by lifting him into the air  on her feet…
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Memoir Manuscript

This is how my memoir manuscript begins:     I come from black dirt.      I come from tee totaling Presbyterians, fallen Catholics, and a small town where nothing is…
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The Best Advice About Grief

This is the best advice I’ve ever read about grief. It comes from Anne Lamott’s book, Traveling Mercies: All those years I fell for the great palace lie that grief…
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Today is the best!

Today is the best day of the rest of your life! A poster similar to this one here hung on the wall of my social worker’s office at the adoption…
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