Mother’s Day is a difficult day to be a birthmother. Here are 10 things to say to a birthmother on Mother’s Day.
1. I know you’re a mother, so I’m thinking of you.
2. Is there a way I can bring some comfort to you today?
3. Wanna talk about it?
4. Would you like to go for a walk, or out for some coffee, or maybe see a movie?
5 .Do you ever think of searching for your child? or How is your reunion going?
6. How do you think your life would be different if you’d kept your baby?
7. What would you do if your son/daughter contacted you?
8. What’s the hardest thing about Mother’s Day for you?
9. What do you think of Birth Mother’s Day? It seems kind of hard to celebrate, right? And do you even like the term birthmother? Do you prefer natural mother, bio mom, or what?
10. I really appreciate your friendship, and I want you to know I’m here for you.
Sunday is Mother’s Day. And there’s also the controversial Birthmother’s Day, “celebrated” the Saturday before Mother’s Day. This addition to the holiday calendar was initiated by a group of Birthmothers in 1990. Even though its heart is in the right place, it does not inspire balloons, flowers, cakes, or presents. If you know a woman who lost a child to adoption, reach out to her on Mother’s Day or the day before. Don’t let her spend the weekend unacknowledged.