Category Archives: American Adoption Congress

Two Articles to Read

I have a piece in the November issue of the American Adoption Congress publication, The Beacon. It’s an interview with a 19-year-old adoptee.  Gabrielle’s Story is quite different from the way my son and I experienced adoption in 1970.

There’s another story I highly recommend. It’s written by a young woman I’ve know since she was a baby. Pema Levy is now an assistant editor at The American Prospect. Her most recent piece, Moment of Conception, conjures a future that neither adoptees like Gabrielle nor birth mothers like me like to contemplate.

November is National Adoption Awareness Month, and it is not a celebratory time for most birth mothers. We’re very aware of adoption, and our stories are often bound up with an un-ending grief.  Imagine a future time when all abortion is outlawed, the ranks  of birth mothers increase ten-fold, and clouds of sadness and shame once again hang over our land. In that future and terrible time, it’s likely that any openness that has pried its way into the world of adoption will also disappear. In that world Gabrielle will not get her wish.

I Don’t Need a Gatekeeper

I joined American Adoption Congress recently after their call to action asking for Birthparents to sign the list in support of open records for adoptees. I’m not much of a joiner. I don’t especially like meetings. I don’t have the business skill-set to be a good organization volunteer.But I liked the idea of this list of Birthparents willing to write their names on a list to say, yes, I believe adoptees have the same rights as other adults, and no, I’m not hung up on confidentiality. Studies and surveys have shown that many Birthparents do not feel the need for a gatekeeper.
I was pleasantly surprised when their newsletter,”Decree” appeared in my mailbox. Essays and poetry with multitude of perspectives. I recommend it.